Silent Connections

After some conversations with a friend I determined that I primarily connect with people through silent actions instead of direct interactions and conversation. I wonder if this is a normal alternative to typical for interrelationships between two individuals.

The way that I connect with people is through the unmotivated, silent, and unthoughtful actions. Lets use an example to clarify what I mean.

To set the scene: I am driving late at night with a girl. The windows are down, the sunroof is open, the radio is dead. Nothing but an endless road and the dull one-note tone of the engine as it bellows its eternal moan. I gaze off into the distance and lose myself in the pavement. She sits with the seat back a little with her shoes off and is lost in the twinkling stars and the wind on her face.

The metaphysical connection between two individuals lost into the scenery and in the moment is quite distant yet at the same time both people are as one lost in the same moment. I find this notion and sentiment very romantic and very intimate. The feelings and emotions are in union. I look at her and at the same time she looks at me; we smile. We understand each other, we understand the moment, we understand everything; without words. In just an instant with a quick glance we both communicate the splendor of the moment and then return to the abyss that is the drive.

Of course, the moment can be entirely different. Two people can be sitting on a couch watching tv and need not communicate to understand each other or reading books laying in bed. Then again, I can usually tell how someone is doing by looking into their eyes. So much can be said and understood by simply paying attention to one another.

Sometimes, just sometimes, these silent affirmations of unity can be more profound than spoken and direct words. I dare you to think of more moments where spoken words between yourself and another have meant more than the silent connections. During a wedding its all about the emotions and what is happening. Looking into the eyes of your lover and listening to the words and going through the motions. We all know the words; it isn't the words, its the affliction and the connection. What about laying next to each other after making love and just feeling each other breath and looking into the others eyes; the moment, the emotions, the connection.

You may be saying: "What about friends, huh? How can friends connect in the same way?!" Well, guys do this all the time. Think about how often men can sit together and watch tv, play a video game, drink some brews on the deck; and not say a word. Its the same connection, the same understanding, the same affirmation of the moment. "Yeah man, good beer, good food, good day" may go through both of their heads at the same time; a glance and a nod, perhaps the raising of the particular brew. Each person knows what the other is thinking and revels in the moment.

"What about women..." you may ask? Well, I'm a man, I can't wholly say. I don't really know if there are any silent moments and connections via action and deed without any spoken communications. So what do you think about that? Yeah, I don't know and really can't fairly say...